Thursday, August 16, 2007

Another Exciting Day
























August 16

Another day. Our visit with Caleb was a little more exciting than usual. I walked into the hospital and heard a baby crying, I knew it was him (isn’t it amazing that a mother can know their child’s cry in only 9 days!). We walked into his room and his caretaker was redressing him after changing his diaper, he was MAD, his little legs were straight and his feet were arched. He saw us and stopped screaming, Ethan picked him up and he was a happy boy again. We then settled in our routine, Ethan was feeding him his bottle and I decided I have finally gotten up the nerve to clip his fingernails with the baby clippers I bought prior to leaving.

I was being so careful and I have to admit I was just a little nervous. All of a sudden Caleb started screaming, I looked down and I had clipped the little skin off the end of his thumb. Blood. I was devastated, Ethan comforted Caleb and the crocodile tears subsided, I on the other hand have still not recovered from the event. The LAST thing in the whole world I want to do is cause this precious boy any harm, and here I have made him bleed. So for thirty minutes I held him and walked back and forth in the cubicle to keep him from moving around and to try to stop the bleeding. Keep in mind, he is fine at this point. Finally, we were able to change him and let him play. Today he discovered my shoe, exciting for a six month old. He talked and cooed at the shoe. Dr Natalia then came in, she is the one who delivered him and took care of him the first three months of his life. We spent some time with her which was good. She of course noticed his little bloody thumb. I told her the truth; she laughed and said “scars make a man handsome”. We left the hospital, covered in drool, spit up and little dots of blood. But I would not trade this for the world.

As to the rest of our time, yesterday afternoon was a little long. We did not have much going on and we were both too sore to work out. The day finally passed and we stayed in and I had oatmeal, Ethan ate “Big Bon” noodles (thanks Maureen), which are basically ramen noodles. We then had a lovely evening watching six episodes of King of Queens. We awoke this morning at about 7am and shortly after got a phone call from my parents. As usual I talked for about thirty minutes straight, then off to breakfast. At breakfast we met our new travel partner who is here adopting as well. She was very kind and we look forward to getting to know her better. Tonight we are going out with her, as well as the two other families here adopting. We are to meet at a place called Rainbow CafĂ© that supposedly has great kabobs.
Also, I just wanted to kind of let everyone know the process and how it works for the adoption. We are currently on day 9 of the mandatory 14 day bonding period with Caleb. On 8/22 we petition the court for adoption. They will then set the court date which should be around 8/31. After court we are suppose to get immediate custody of Caleb. But there is a 15 day “wait” period for the judge’s decision to be final. Ethan then is to leave Kokshetau and travel to Almaty for the final 8 days of the trip where he does paperwork etc. that is necessary for Caleb to become a US citizen. That is it in a nutshell.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I remember the first time that I cut Brandon's little finger while trimming his nails. I cried and I think it hurt me more than it hurt him. He is almost 7 and he has never once mentioned that to me. (HAHAHA) I am so happy that you guys are bonding, and you look so happy together. Chelsie goes straight to the computer when she gets home from school and reads the blog religiously everyday. She even tells me not to tell her what happened. Thanks again for allowing us to be a part of this. We miss you so much and will continue to pray for you guys.

Anonymous said...

Isn't God amazing that he has already formed a special bond between the three of you, that you already recognize Caleb's cry and your heart aches when he is hurt. Welcome to parenthood, with many more boo-boos to come!!! Still praying!!! Love, Georja

Maureen Powers said...

I missed your post yesterday but got caught up today. Don't feel too bad about accidentally cutting Caleb's finger. I did that with James, too. And in that same room, too, I think...maybe it's the room!

Hope you're starting to have better luck with the food now. Jodi's right - the Beef Acapulco at the restaurant is a better dish. Both Bob and Sean used to order it with french fries. You will love the kabobs at the Rainbow - delicious! Sorry about your experience with the Chicken Odessa - I should have warned you. That's the dish I ate right before I got really sick and was out for the count for a whole day. Glad to hear it didn't affect you the same way!

Loved the video from yesterday. You're more than halfway through with your visits - yay!

Maureen

Anonymous said...

In case he does not already know, please tell Caleb that he has a huge fan club in Chattanooga, Tennessee, his new home! Also we would like for him to refer to us the same way that his new Hinkle cousins do....

swooze said...

what an expressive little boy!! don't worry about nicking his finger mary he will have many more where that came from--but i can see how it would be traumatic! i hope all the court dates go smoothly.
i love you guys- give caleb a hug and kiss for me!

nikki b said...

Caleb, i'm sorry your mom is the only mom that has cut their child's skin while cutting their nails. just kidding! Mary, we've all done it. mom cut Isaiah's nails for a long time, for that reason. i am glad to hear that you are getting to do such natural parenting "things" with/to Caleb instead of the hospital doing it for you. i am reading daily.
nikki

Anonymous said...

Thanks for updating again about the process waiting periods, etc. I keep telling people about how long you have to be there, but wasn't sure I was getting the time frames quite right.
I read some info on the city you were in the other night and it said the food in that country wasn't the greatest...so I totally get the problems you've been having with the food. Maybe you will find something you love though and can share the recipe with us ;) Love you, Liz

Anonymous said...

Good advice from Dr. Natalia...scars do make a handsome man...but I can imagine how traumatic that must have been for you, Mary. I'm just glad I'll have you and your experience to guide me when we have a little one...whenever that may be. I'll probably make you cut his/her fingernails.

I want you guys to know that your good news and precious pictures have helped me through the first somewhat rough week of school. Seeing Caleb's little face and reading about your time with him has been so uplifting. A testament to God's goodness and sovereignty. Love to you all.
H.